My Kid Insists That I'm White, but I'm Not

Race Manners: A mom and her 5-year-old can't agree on race. Time to discuss identity.

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So the good news is that you don't have to decide between a response to "You're white" that's "yes" (which denies how you identify) or "no" (which forces your daughter to accept something that doesn't make sense to her). Instead, a conversation that definitely won't begin or end at one fish fry, but is more likely to cover her formative years and beyond, could simply begin with, "Why?"

The Root's staff writer, Jenée Desmond-Harris, covers the intersection of race with news, politics and culture. She wants to talk about the complicated ways in which ethnicity, color and identity arise in your personal life -- and provide perspective on the ethics and etiquette surrounding race in a changing America. Follow her on Twitter. 

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