Kerry Rhodes: Gay or Straight? Who Cares?

She Matters: It's really none of our business whether a celebrity is in the closet or not.

Kerry Rhodes (Astrid Stawiarz/Getty Images)
Kerry Rhodes (Astrid Stawiarz/Getty Images)

One of the unfortunate side effects of the recent allegations against Rhodes is the renewed “down low” hysteria. I blame E. Lynn Harris’ juicy tales of gay black men leading double lives for bringing this fretting about the down low to the initial forefront. And I blame New York Times bestselling author J.L. King for writing On the Down Low: A Journey Into the Lives of ‘Straight’ Black Men Who Sleep With Men, in which he admitted that yes, he liked to sleep with men, but, hell no, he wasn’t gay, for fueling the fire. I blame Tyler Perry for beating the deceased horse by adding an unnecessary DL storyline to For Colored Girls and getting women all riled up again.

I also blame all the women who bought into the hype and irrationally suspect the men who don’t fit some alpha male stereotype, or are not fashion queens, for continuously spreading the DL hysteria. It’s like the irony escapes them that down-low behavior persists because of all the horrible things that are said about gay men anytime someone mentions the words “down low” (as if all gay men fall into that category).

Whomever he is into, I support Rhodes. I hope he’s on the receiving end of the comfort he graciously wished upon others.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life.