(The Root) — Professor Jada Pinkett Smith is back in the building, and class is in session. Continuing her online university-esque lecture series disguised as Facebook posts on everything from haters and bullying to goddess energy and last-resort lesbianism, Pinkett Smith recently sort of addressed the persistent rumors of her alleged open marriage to fellow actor Will Smith.
“Do we believe loving someone means owning them? Do we believe that ownership is the reason someone should ‘behave’? Do we believe that all the expectations, conditions and underlying threats of ‘you better act right or else’ keep one honest and true?” asked Pinkett Smith in true Socratic method form, attempting to school folks through pointed debate and questioning.
She continued, “Here is how I will change my statement … Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so. This does NOT mean we have an open relationship … this means we have a GROWN one,” then signed off with a simple, “Siempre, J.” For some, the actress-director’s post led to more questions than it answered.
But does she have to answer any at all?
Back in August 2011, Jada and Will released a joint statement affirming their togetherness after rumors of an impending split reached critical tabloid mass. They described their marriage then as “intact,” a methodical adjective if there ever was one. Married since 1997, the Smiths, with their children straight from central casting and enviably long-lasting careers, have become iconographic.
Beyond the cost of celebrity, the scrutiny the Smiths’ marriage has received seems amplified within the black community. It was during a recent interview with HuffPost Live’s Marc Lamont Hill that Pinkett Smith had to address the “open marriage” question once again.
“I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK,’ ” she told Hill during an interview that was supposed to be about her new film, Free Angela and All Political Prisoners.
“Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be, and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”