Lots of people tend to think that dating is a right, not a privilege — and that it’s OK to go about seeking a partner or romantic companionship when they don’t have their basic affairs in order. That’s not to say that everyone who’s dating needs to be flush with cash. It is to say that when there’s a choice between dating — an inherently costly pastime — and addressing personal money issues, it’s time to sacrifice romance to focus on finance. Hopefully, the guy you were dating has finally received this message.
Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at firstname.lastname@example.org.