(The Root) — A couple of years ago, I turned down an interview opportunity with a major network for the first, but not last, time. The reason was the topic. The producer wanted to know if I, as a black woman, was willing to weigh in on the fact that the Tiger Woods scandal that was then unfolding, in which the golf great was revealed to have strayed from his marriage with multiple women, seemed to confirm that he had a preference for women who are not black.
To which I replied, “I’m sorry. Are you expecting black women to be offended he didn’t choose to cheat with us?”
Of course that wasn’t the producer’s point, and of course I knew that. But I wasn’t interested in being part of such a discussion nonetheless. The discussion to which I am referring is the one about how I as a black woman am supposed to feel about yet another high-profile athlete, musician, actor or businessman not only dating or marrying someone of a different race, but appearing to do so exclusively.
I was reminded of my conversation with the producer when cyberspace went into overdrive because Tiger Woods confirmed his relationship with skier Lindsey Vonn on Facebook on Monday. Vonn is a tall, attractive blonde like Woods’ ex-wife, Elin Nordegren. Both of them are white, as have been most of the women to whom Woods has been publicly linked.
Let me get this out of the way: I don’t care. I care as much about the color of the women Tiger Woods chooses to date or marry as I do about what color socks he chooses to put on each day.
But discussions with friends and acquaintances, a look at message boards, some of the media coverage (including the New York Post’s “Tiger’s Blond Beauty” cover story of its print edition, which noted that Vonn, “as a striking blonde, is the same type as Tiger’s spurned ex-wife”) make it clear that some people do care. Here’s the question: Should we?
In a world in which multiracial families are among the fastest growing groups in our country, a biracial man is our president and acceptance for interracial relationships is at an all-time high, it seems silly that we would even ask that question.
And yet speaking as someone who has interracially dated, I still acknowledge that though we each have the right to make the choices that work for us as individuals, as members of a minority group, our choices will often be fraught with the weight of history and implications for the larger community.