I Woke Up Naked in Co-Worker's Bed

Ask Demetria: You may have been a victim of acquaintance rape, and there's only one way to be sure.

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Read carefully what I'm about to write. Being intoxicated does not make you any less of a victim. And in no way did you "ask for" what happened because you were drunk.

In a perfect world, women would be able to drink whatever they wanted and however much of it they desired, and they wouldn't be bothered, because every man would operate with the understanding that "drunk women are off-limits because they cannot consent." However, that is not the world in which we live (see Steubenville and thousands of other places), as much as I wish it were. 

It's your body to do with what you want, but as a society we have not progressed to the point where women are safe from harm when they are so intoxicated that they can't make it home alone. You need to take better care of yourself by watching how much you drink or stopping altogether. You need to remain in a position where you know what's going on around you and what is happening to you at all times.

If it sounds as if I'm giving you advice on getting better odds on not being raped, it's because I am. Until more parents step up to raise their sons not to rape, their daughters are left with no choice but to stand guard as best they can to try to avoid it.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.

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