I Won’t Be a Side Chick. But Can I Call?

Ask Demetria: You did the right thing by not settling for second. Now you have to stick to it.

If you want a boyfriend or even just some attention, save your flirting and sweet “hellos” for a single man who can return your call without ducking his girlfriend or can text you back without having to delete the conversation afterward. There’s no sense in wasting your pretty (or your time, emotions or energy) on a man who isn’t even available to date you openly.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.