I'm a Rape Survivor: How Do I Tell My Man?

Ask Demetria: No need to deal with sex-abuse memories alone. Be honest with your mate and therapist.

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Trust your boyfriend, whom you obviously really care about, to be a good guy and accept you -- all of you -- including the good, bad and traumatized. Allow him a chance to really know all of you and support you, too, as you finally address the pain you've been carrying.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.

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