Also, unfortunately, although you aren’t to blame for this happening and did nothing to cause it, there is not much you can do to avoid this happening again. It’s clear you’ve taken an emotional hit here, but don’t let the negative outcome of this situation keep you from asking for what you want or even “What are we doing?” in the future. This situation didn’t work out the way you hoped. Another situation will.
Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at firstname.lastname@example.org.