I Slept With My Ex: Tell My Fiancee or Not?

Ask Demetria: Mistakes happen, but cheating is the worst way to kick off married life.

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If your ex is a smart woman -- which she sounds like, since she flipped on you for hiding your engagement -- she won't have much to do with you going forward. I'm not surprised to hear that she feels like a "ho," but she was not aware of your situation because of your deceit, so she did nothing wrong.

You've done enough damage to others and yourself thus far, and your guilt signals to me that you can be a better man and want to be one. Your best bet now is to be alone until you can figure out what it is you actually want -- which, based on your actions, is not a commitment. It's something the likes of which you appear to be too immature to fully grasp just yet.

Good luck!

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.

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