Blacks’ Evolving Views of Gay Marriage

As the Supreme Court gears up to hear two marriage-equality cases, advocates talk about the movement.

A couple getting married in New York City (Getty Images)
A couple getting married in New York City (Getty Images)

Sharon Lettman-Hicks, CEO of the National Black Justice Coalition, an organization committed to eradicating homophobia within the African-American community, is straight and self-describes as “a sister in the movement.” She said that her commitment to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender equality was inspired by the likes of Shirley Chisholm and legendary congresswoman Barbara Jordan. “I’m a Delta. Jordan was, too,” she said. “After she died, I discovered she had left her entire estate to her life partner. She had been silent about her orientation because of the era in which she lived. I immediately became determined that others not bear the burden of that silence.”

Perhaps things would have been different for Jordan today. Kimberley McLeod, NBJC’s communications director, explained evolving attitudes on this issue. “African Americans have never been monolithically homophobic,” she said. “I think what we are seeing is that the national conversation and media depictions have changed. The diversity of opinion that already existed is finally being reflected and openly expressed in the black community.”

ESPN sportswriter and CNN contributor LZ Granderson agrees. “Are blacks evolving on this subject? Yes. We all are, even gay people. The more we can do to eradicate homophobia, the better off we will be.” Asked if he and his partner were married, he said, “Marriage is something we talk about, but we live in Michigan. We love Michigan, and we want our marriage to matter in Michigan. This is our home.”

Robert Brown and his partner, Nathanael Gay, understand all too well the complicated nature of state-sanctioned restrictions on their love. “We got ‘legally’ married in New York, but we had our ceremony in Kentucky,” Brown told The Root. “We knew it was a big step, especially in the South, but we didn’t do it to make a political statement. We did it because we were in love. We just wanted to live our lives together.”

The couple garnered unintended press attention earlier this year when African-American media outlets featured video from their wedding ceremony highlighting the traditional colors of Kappa Alpha Psi, the renowned African-American collegiate fraternity to which Gay belongs.

“We do have a sense that our love matters in a broader sense,” said Brown. “There have been gay weddings before ours, and black, same-sex-loving couples married before us. But the fact that Nathanael was a Kappa challenged people’s ideas of what is a traditional masculine guy. That’s a good thing. It helps broaden the perspective of gay men and black gay men especially.”

Aisha Moodie-Mills, an adviser for the Center for American Progress who lives with her wife, Danielle, in Washington, D.C., also weighed in. “Lesbians like my wife and I are symbols of love, marriage and stability which isn’t foreign to African-American families but which is only now being celebrated. I think the bigger picture is that we are living, loving and laboring out loud — and we inspire others to do the same.”

Darryl Moore, a Berkeley, Calif., city councilman and NBJC board member, was legally married to his partner before Proposition 8 and expressed a more holistic approach. Moore believes that no matter which way the Supreme Court rules, it is only the beginning.  

“My husband and I are an example to loving couples, both black and white, gay and straight. But gay marriage isn’t the only priority,” he said. “Employment discrimination matters. Health disparities matter. The disproportionate number of black men and women contracting HIV/AIDS matters even more. These issues are as important as marriage equality, and I hope that African Americans everywhere will join us in the fight.”

Editor’s note: The original version of this article identified Aisha Moodie-Mills as an attorney for the Center for American Progress. She is an adviser for the center.

Edward Wyckoff Williams is contributing editor at The Root. He is a columnist and political analyst, appearing on Al-Jazeera, MSNBC, CBS Washington and national syndicated radio. Follow him on Twitter and on Facebook.