Why One Man Chose Celibacy

Armond E. Mosley explains in a piece for Ebony how his spiritual path led him from sexual conquests to chastity. 

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Armond E. Mosley, author of Rededication: A Story of Sex, Repentance and Restoration, explains in a piece for Ebony how his spiritual path led him from sexual conquests to chastity.

... I began my freshman year at Howard University, a campus with far more females than males. Casual sex became the norm. In the dorm, my boys and I would give full reports on the girls we'd been with. Still, there was still part of me that felt more disconnected from God every time I had intercourse ...

A few months later, I heard God whisper: "Be celibate for one year." I knew it was what I needed to hear. I called two of my Christian friends and told them what I'd experienced. They admitted that they, too, wanted to get back in alignment with their faith, so we made a pact to recommit to abstinence and hold each other accountable. For 18 months.

I was celibate -- and began to wear my abstinence as a badge of pride rather than a journey of humility.

In 2006, I hit a low point. As the housing market deteriorated, my real estate business spiraled into bankruptcy. I was ticked off with God. In my immaturity, I thought, 'How could You do this to me after I gave you 18 months?' I now know God was using the experience to bring me back to Him. At church one Sunday, the minister said, "God sometimes gets our attention by conviction, confrontation and constriction."

Read Armond E. Mosley's entire piece at Ebony.com.

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