I Don't Want Kids, but He Does; Help!

Ask Demetria: If you disagree about being parents now, it doesn't bode well for your marriage.

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I know you're in love and want this relationship to work, but please avoid the inclination to try to make it happen by any means necessary. Don't agree to have children if you don't want them just to go down the aisle in July. That's unfair to your fiancé.

For good reason, compromise is often referred to as the cornerstone of relationships. But this isn't one of those issues you give in on just to make your would-be husband happy. It's unfair to you and any potential offspring. Since you've concluded that you don't want kids, you're undoubtedly aware of the gigantic responsibility involved. Parenting is a role that should be taken on because you want to, not under duress or to save a relationship.

Good luck!

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.

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