Buppie Love: Do We Need to Let the Fantasy Go?

In a piece for Ebony, Ebonie Johnson Cooper asks whether the Clair-and-Cliff, Jada-and-Will and Barack-and-Michelle standard is actually getting in her way.

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In a piece for Ebony, Ebonie Johnson Cooper asks whether the Clair-and-Cliff, Jada-and-Will and Barack-and-Michelle standard is actually getting in her way.

Like many of my peers, I lived the early part of my twenties anticipating life to be just a few short years away from the Claire & Cliff life. Jada & Will status.  And most recently, Shelly & Barry-game proper. Not long after my heartbreak---the first of many quarter-life crisis earthquakes---I began to consider that perhaps the love life I’d once imagined for myself wasn’t realistic.

You see, being attracted to someone is one thing but sharing a passion (or passions) is an entirely different situation. I recognized then, as I still do now, that my passion for the community isn't going to be shared with every man I meet. However, many successful couples I do meet have a connection rooted in something in which they share. Take DJ KISS & DJ MOS for example. I've never met two people whose passion for music literally fuels the love they share. How much more perfect can they be for one another? ...

But is wanting it all preventing me from having anything at all? #pleaserespond

Read Ebonie Johnson Cooper's entire piece at Ebony.

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