Are You Dating a Narcissist?

Kaneisha Grayson offers a checklist at Ebony.com for readers who think they might be in a relationship with someone whose selfishness crosses a line.

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In a piece for Ebony.com, Kaneisha Grayson offers a checklist for readers who think they might be in a relationship with someone whose selfishness crosses a line.

Being colleagues or close friends with a narcissist is hard enough. But what about if you’re actually in love with a narcissist? I myself have narcissistic tendencies, and can definitely point to at least one relationship where I was dating a toxic narcissist. In our “look at me, fan me, follow me” culture, it seems like everyone has a place in the spectrum of self-absorbed behavior that is narcissism. However, there’s an important difference between having narcissistic tendencies and being a toxic narcissist, someone’s whose behavior is so wildly destructive, oblivious of consequences, and inconsiderate of others’ feelings that it’s nearly impossible for them to be in an authentic relationship built on love, trust, and support.

In their book Help! I’m in Love with a Narcissist, authors Steven Carter and Julia Sokol gave ample examples of relationships featuring toxic narcissists and their clueless counterparts. To help those of you who might be reluctant to come to terms with the fact that you are in love with a narcissist, here is a checklist of what dating a narcissist feels like . . .

Read Kaneisha Grayson's entire piece at Ebony.com.

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