“I didn’t know,” he said backstage. “Her mama could’ve been in there; that’s not the point. I didn’t drive drunk … No, comedy is not over the top. When you are a celebrity and you do crazy stuff, that’s the game.”
Members of the Rutgers women’s basketball team were not celebrities when they were called “nappy-headed hos” by radio host Don Imus in 2007. He was clearly trying to be funny, not malicious. But in the world of radio, where comedy plays a key role, funny can become mean real fast.
Imus’ comments outraged the black community, and he lost his job (only to land another one). Imus did apologize to the ladies, but there were comedians — even black ones, like my friend and former co-worker D.L. Hughley — who said that Imus had the right to say whatever he wanted.
Another comedian friend of mine, Steve Wilson, agrees. “If it’s smart and clever,” he told me recently, comedians can say whatever they want. But what I’ve noticed about Wilson when he’s onstage is that he is never mean. He says he was inspired by greats like Richard Pryor and Bill Cosby, who joked about themselves and their observations of life. “I don’t have to attack the audience or other people when I have so much pain in my life to talk about,” he said.
Wilson adds that a lot of mean comedians are just projecting their pain onto other people once they hit the stage: “Hurt people hurt people.”
Wilson believes that at the end of the day, the audience decides. He says that for every one or two observers who are insulted, there are 300 to 400 who loved it. “It’s a numbers game.”
I imagine numbers, or dollar signs, factored into Morgan’s decision to apologize. He might have been thinking specifically about holding on to that job on NBC’s 30 Rock. But hopefully, as he takes this journey, he will broaden his perspective as well as his base of knowledge about people. Perhaps he’ll realize that the type of joke he made about gays can only add to a climate of intolerance and hate that already exists.
Surely some, maybe most, in the audience at Morgan’s fateful Nashville, Tenn., show thought he was funny, but I am certain he can be even funnier and not hurt anyone in the process.